The Little Engine That Could
I think I can….I think I can….I think I can….I think I can…..and the little fellow DID!!!!
All of the other bigger stronger engines found excuses to not even TRY, yet the smallest one of them all didn’t even consider refusal as an option. He thought he could do it, he tried doing it, he succeeded 🙂
So why is it that we don’t even try? Why do we find excuses not only not to try but to not even want to try? Why is our fear of failure so ingrained within us that we would rather be comfortable than happy?
What’s the worst that could happen? You fail then you try again. Simple. Is it because of “what people will say”? Do we place such value on others’ opinions that we allow them to impede our happiness? Why would any sane person give that power to someone else?
Let’s look at it this way. When you are dead, how will those left behind remember you? Will they say, oh yes Dufuss was very prim and proper. He finished high school, went to uni, got a stable job, married his high school sweetheart, bought a house with a white picket fence, had the three children and two cars. Yes, nice chap. What kind of a person was he? Well, I don’t know…he was always very polite.
(note I am saying there is anything wrong with this picture if this is truly your dream)
Tinkerbelle? Oh, she always made me laugh! There was a warmth about her and she would always help out and listen. She saved so many animals. Her children are the happiest people I know…. How much money did she make? Well, I don’t know….she always seemed to have enough of everything…
Am I making sense here?
There is a difference in living to please others and living life and loving life!
We don’t know if this is the only life we have, we only know we have it now, so let’s make it count.
Apart from models the society we live in has brought upon us, most people have nothing else to go on. Stepping outside and looking at the bigger picture is not encouraged. If you rock the boat then the safety of your little cubicle is compromised.
That is not living.
Dream big, try hard, fail even harder, you will learn lessons with every failure so that next time it will bring you closer to your dream. You are the only person who can get you there and you are the only person standing in your way. Everything else is an excuse.
I have a really cool clock in my lounge and it says: “If you can dream it, you can be it.” It may sound like a corny cliché but it prompted a half hour conversation with my five year old about what it meant. We talked about what dreams are. We talked about how we can do and be anything we want to be (as long as we are not hurting anyone or anything else of course) but we have to work hard and keep trying until we get there. My five year old is empowered because he believes in himself and nothing is impossible and there are no excuses and it is his choice.
On the same topic, Madison has tried swimming, ballet, martial arts, playing in a band, singing in a choir, soccer… I encourage her to try whatever she may have an interest in so that she may find where her heart lies. And accountability is something she lives with. She knows that there are no excuses only choices and she tries to make right ones for herself. She knows that if she fails at something after she tried really hard, it’s okay. Cry a little bit if you need to, pick yourself up and try again.
My twins, at 20 months of age are the most devilish of explorers and climbers. I never disallow them to try. Clearly, I asses if the situation is dangerous and what the damage level may be, but I will watch them from a distance and they will fall and hurt themselves a little bit but then they pick themselves up and try again and again and again. However many times it takes, until they make it.
Why can’t we the grown ups be like the 20 month old babies in that regard? Have we had our personal growth and desire to succeed retarded as we have gotten older?
Ideally, I would like everyone to let the fear go, to believe and know deep in your core that YOU CAN.
I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes from the book and movie “The Help”:
You is kind.
You is smart.
You is important.
Yes, YOU ARE!!!!!!